Happy Halloween!
After our third house, Ava said, “Trick or Treat! I did it! We can do this every day!”
Hope your Halloween was great.
Camera – or “Life as Parent”
I’ve talked about them before but we discovered a new (to us) band last year called Rabbit! and we listen to them several days a week. In our minivan, Rabbit! is called “New Yusic” and probably always will be. We were listening to it again last week and I finally figured out why “Camera” is one of my favorite songs on their Connect the Dots album…it perfectly sums up the vague parenting feeling that it’s all slipping by too fast to capture it.
I wish I was a camera
I would take a picture of
All the small and subtle stuff
Everything we can’t give up
I’ll keep my memories all intact
Of how we love and how we laugh
I wanna be a camera
I wanna be a photograph
I want it all to just slow down long enough that I capture all the little things that make my babies special, the things we swear we’ll never forget but that fade by the time the terrible two’s have passed.
I wish I was a photograph
Of times and places in the past
The truth is every picture’s old
Taking seconds or a year ago
This way we could stay the same
Let the world around us start to change
I wish i was a photograph
Or maybe just a picture frame
The time is so fleeting that, seconds after something happens, it’s all a memory. Babies roll over for the first time only once; only one step is the first one. Every milestone, every change moves them farther along their path.
A box and a pinhole set in the window to capture the path of the sun
You can hold on to lighting right when it’s striking, if you keep the shutter open
Digging through the thumbnail proofs
The ones I keep are ones of you
Maybe if we set things up just right – start a blog, take thousands of photos, terabytes of videos – we can remember it all or at least archive it for later reference? How do you capture the way they smell when they’ve been outside to play on a spring day or just after a cozy winter bath?
I wish I was a picture frame
The kind that you can get engraved
One that says “I love you Jill,”
One that says, “I miss you Jane.”
Now I know you won’t get scratched
Underneath a pane of glass
I wanna be a picture frame
I wanna be a photograph
I want to bottle up their lives and memories and put them under glass, so nothing will hurt them or tarnish them. Something this precious should be protected. The frame would say, “I love you” so that no one would ever doubt that the protecting was all simply for love of those kiddos.
I wish I was a photograph
So nobody would have to ask
Who was in your high school play?
Or, What was on your wedding cake?
I could be a college crush
I could be an image of
How we live and how we love
I wish I was a cameraHow we live and how we love
I wish I was a camera
All the little moments -the ones to review, the ones to relive – I want to record the times they can’t remember so that my kids can look back and know. So they can see how they were happy; so they can see how much they were (are) loved. I want them to remember, through my own memory, how each day, development, word, deed, and thought was cherished (even the crummy ones). I want to be an image of that feeling for them; I want them to know how we lived (for them) and loved (for them).
Where We’ve Been
So it’s been nearly a month since I’ve updated this blog. To be honest, that’s a little hard to believe because Noah’s birthday seems like it was yesterday…or maybe last week. So, it seems as though it’s been a fast month. On the other hand, little dude’s birthday may as well have been a lifetime ago for all that has happened. We’ve been busy living life at a mostly frenetic pace so, when we’ve had slow moments in which I could be blogging, I’ve chosen to simply be present and put memories to rest only in my mind.
But, since just reading the archives of this place reminds me how weak my memory is for the details, I’m going to try to get some stuff recorded before it’s gone for good.
Since I last wrote, Matt’s been to San Antonio for a week, I’ve opened a new veterans center at UNLV and been to Champaign, IL, Ava started dance classes again and Noah has started walking. To say we’ve been chasing life would be an understatement.
Matt’s trip to San Antonio was of the last minute, emergency kind since he needed to go visit Michael on his return from Afghanistan. Michael was hurt, which I’m not really going to talk about until I have his permission, but we were (are) so grateful to have him home and on the road to recovery. Matt was gone for 8 days, but I think that was probably only barely enough time. We hope to head back to San Antonio in mid-October so the whole family can get to see him.
After two years of advocacy and foundation building, UNLV has finally opened a one-stop shop for veteran services. I’m so excited about the possibilities for this center and really believe that it is a game-changer for UNLV student veterans. We opened during the week that Matt was gone, so it was a little bittersweet (all my UNLV vets are someone’s Michael) and also a little hectic. I don’t recommend single parenting during one’s most busy work week ever. Chances are good stress levels will be high and patience levels will be low. Last weekend, on Sunday, I traveled with Liz and another colleague to the University of Illinois – Urbana-Champaign to do a presentation about our vets program at UNLV. It was fairly well-received and we also were encouraged by other presentations that helped us to know we are on the right track with our work.
Noah transitioned to a new classroom at school during the week Matt was gone and has been having a great time in toddlers. His teachers, Miss Amy, Miss Nettie, & Miss Abby, have all been awesome. This is the classroom where Ava started at Bright Horizons, so we already feel pretty comfortable with how things go in there. With only a week or so of peer pressure in the toddler room, Noah was up and walking almost everywhere. He still crawls if it seems more convenient, but has realized how much more he’s able to do on two feet. He’s a little steadier every day and is truly turning into a toddler. At school he sits in a chair at a table to eat meals, sleeps on a cot & is learning to play nicely with others and follow directions. At home, he plays a little more independently and still clearly thinks his big sister hung the moon. No one can get him to laugh at silliness like she can. At his 12 month well-baby check, he was completely normal. He weighed 21 lbs, 5 oz, and was 30 inches long. We had another doctor appointment about a week ago and he’d gained another pound. Whole milk is really doing its thing for him.
Speaking of big sister, Ava has been learning so much at school lately. Since last I posted, she’s learned about the solar system, bats, soccer, football, and cars. The solar system, in particular, struck a chord and she’s still fascinated with all things planet, moon & stars. She’s also started dance classes again and being six months older has obviously benefitted her. She follows along a little better and isn’t the baby of the class anymore. Whoozers is also just growing up, getting smarter. Today, while we were playing outside, she wanted to write letters with her paintbrush and water. It’s exciting to see her start to “get it.”
It’s our fourth year here in Vegas and that means it’s assignment matching time. Matt got word last week that he’s got a job in Dayton, so we’ll be heading back there next summer. We’re super excited to be heading back to our house – the one with the huge backyard and all the family-friendly activity so nearby. That news has me pining for fall and trees and cooler weather but, alas, it’s 100 degrees here in Vegas still and it’s a full year until we’re back on the other side of the Mississippi.
Our house in Ohio. Doesn’t it look cozy?
A couple of anecdotes to remember:
~The other night when I was asking Ava what she learned at school that day, she replied, “Mommy, why are you always asking about learn, learn, learn??” So exasperated with the nightly inquisition!
~Noah is such a bruiser. He comes home nearly every day from school with some sort of damage to his face from falling or running in to something. On Tuesday when I picked him up after his latest incident, Abby kept a copy of the report and said, “Well, I’ll just add it to the pile!”
~After seeing Lion King on the stage at Mandalay Bay, Ava is obsessed. The movie is an instant classic although she’d only seen it once before and we are constantly playing “Simba” and “Simba’s mommy or daddy.” Preschoolers are wonderfully impressionable.
~While we thought that Ava was incredibly musically inclined as a baby, her little brother may just have her beat. He shakes his booty like none other and even likes to conduct the music he’s hearing. Doozers has a pretty good sense of rhythm already.
~Ava’s been begging to “go see Rebels” so we finally did last Saturday. We went to a UNLV women’s volleyball match. She loved it, even though they got trounced, and Noah also liked all the clapping.
~We took the kids to see fireworks, postponed from July 4th, at Lake Las Vegas last Saturday night. Ava loved all but the finale – she didn’t like them all going off at once. True to his “chillest baby ever” reputation, Noah was completely unfazed by the loud noises and explosions.
I hope to get a Noah-at-13-months post up soon, but I have a few days until he hits that milestone. Probably I’m the worst Mom ever for missing the one year milestone, but we got a little sidetracked right about when I should have been writing it. In light of that guilt, I’ll pledge to get it done this month. Here’s to promises kept!
The Big One
(Bear with me…when your baby turns one, you use a TON of pictures to tell the story.)
For the grown-ups, the birthday started Friday night as we did some prep for the party the next day. Grammie & Grandad were here to help Matt and I get the cake ready. In spite of a few stressful moments when we weren’t sure we’d be able to get it into a refrigerator, we had a great time letting our creativity run wild.
So, needless to say, yesterday was a momentous day. Noah slept in until 8am. Just kidding….he really did sleep until 8am, but obviously this day was HUGE because it was our baby boy’s first birthday. Since his big sister didn’t hook us up with a chance to really sleep in, I had plenty of time to go get our party balloons filled and pick up some special treats for breakfast…donuts! When we were all awake, we had a special birthday breakfast of breakfast casserole and donuts.
After that, we spent the morning just hanging around playing with Grammie & Grandad and even practicing some walking. While he’s nowhere near proficient, Noah has taken about four or five steps at a time on several occasions. He’s such a fast cruiser he hasn’t had much incentive to get up and walking in open spaces. Because, really, when you can cuddle up with your big sister on the floor, why would you start walking?
Before we knew it, it was time to toast Noah’s birth and open his first present!
After lunch and during naps, we took advantage of some kid-free time to put some finishing details on the cake and decorations.
And, then, it was time for the main event…a first birthday party! The guest of honor had to be woken from his nap, but was ready to have a great time after a quick costume change and hair combing.
All dressed up in the outfit Matt wore when he turned one. Thanks, Grama!
With the guests arrived, we set about preparing dinner. For this party, we served Matt’s awesome In-n-Out replica hamburgers, pasta salad, fruit salad, baked beans, veggies, chips, salsa, guacamole & Liz’s famous green chiles. We determined that Noah is definitely a meat-eater…he really tore into that hamburger!
Once everyone was stuffed with dinner, we took a little break and then rolled right into cake and ice cream! Noah loved having everyone sing “Happy Birthday” and, just like his sister before him, reached right for the candle’s flame. He wasn’t a very messy cake eater but sure gobbled it up. After a while, though, the sugar finally got to him and he keeled right over. 
After cake and ice cream, we got Noah into his new chair to open some presents. He was surprisingly patient with and adept at the opening procedure. Maybe his name was a clue, but there was definitely a recurring theme to Doozer’s gifts. Animals and vehicles! From a musical circus train, to dump & tow trucks, to a whole jungle full of animals, little dude is set for Little People animals.
Talking on his hammer “phone.”
Of course, opening presents is always more fun when you’ve got an adoring audience ooh-ing and aah-ing over your every rip and shred of the paper!
The big hit of the night was a gift from Grammie & Grandad. Enjoyed by one-year-olds and 31-year-olds alike, the shiny red plasma car was an instant high-demand item!
Happy Birthday, baby boy. Wishing you many, many more. We love you!
